When your pricing is rooted in your heart and aligned with your calling, money becomes not a source of stress—but a sacred expression of your work in the world…

The question is not whether we direct but how and where we do so. The key to understanding our role lies in clarifying the deepest purpose behind our work…

Which ingredients in your spiritual direction practice come from those who’ve shaped you? Which elements are your own creative ingredients?

The most fruitful spiritual direction sessions happen when we follow feelings, not just exchange information. So why is it so easy for our clients, and for us, to gravitate toward information?

When we’re not tangled in self-doubt or over-caution, we show up with more ease, more courage, more creativity, and more honesty…

In my years of sitting with clients, I've noticed a subtle but powerful dance that takes place in every session: the interplay between grounding and aspiring. These two movements—one anchoring us in the here and now, the other reaching toward the beyond—create the dynamic energy at the heart of meaningful spiritual guidance…

It’s so easy for us to forget, in the midst of our genuine desire to be helpful spiritual guides, that we are not working alone…

This powerhouse of a prayer—attributed to Reinhold Niebuhr—has made a remarkable difference in the lives of so many. And it can make a big difference when it is used as a compass for our sacred work…

Of course we want to be care-full as we companion another human being into their vulnerabilities. It's also the reality that the Holy Spirit shows up as an energy with fire in it. How do we tend to these seemingly contradictory dynamics, tenderness and candor?

Here’s a simple exercise I use when there is a thought or emotion that is hooking the client. I call it the 4 Rs Exercise…

Say you’re driving through the countryside and see a field of cows. They’ll draw your attention for no more than a moment. In a way, if you’ve seen one cow, you’ve seen them all. But, if you should happen to see a purple cow, that’s a different story…

Most of our clients come to us because some kind of imbalance is leading to life challenges. But it can be so easy to forget - we have 12,000 chances a day to come back to balance…

We can help ourselves find new clients is by letting go of a common misconception that gets in the way…

I’d love to see you at my upcoming class through Spiritual Directors International: Expanding Our Spiritual Direction Voice!

We get hunches, annoyances, surprises, wonderings. Each of them is a doorway into a deeper conversation. These flashes of incongruity can be powerful tools in spiritual direction...

Here’s what I’ve seen in working with hundreds of spiritual directors: we all like the middle. Here’s what I’ve seen in working with hundreds of clients: clients like the edge…

So many clients go into a tailspin based on how they perceive their mistakes (don’t we all!). But we spiritual directors can help them see how they habitually make a mis-take in how they view their mistakes…

We can help our clients get past "should-ing" and shaming themselves, enabling their empowerment and inspired action instead. Here's how we reframe... 

The spiritual director’s role is helping clients become more selfish, spiritual, and sensational. Woah - selfish? Yep, you read that right. Becoming selfish is one of the most heretical and important steps anyone takes. How can this be? Here’s the twist…

What a powerful reflex self-doubt is: an exciting possibility comes to mind; self-doubt injects a shot of fear about all the ways it could go bad. With how much we care for our clients, it’s tough to see self-doubt insinuate itself into their lives. Here's how we can redirect it…

Clients sometimes believe that their problems reside outside of them. The truth is that their perception - or more accurately, the misperception that they are disempowered - is often the problem…

I am often reminding myself and my clients of this:

In a grace-filled and loving universe, there is a natural process of goodness, peace, and abundance that is always at work within us. So it isn’t our job to go out and create these experiences. It is our practice to awaken to them in this moment…

Okay, the title is a shameless attempt to get your attention. AND, there’s a truth in helping clients give up a certain kind of prayer. We need to help people connect deeply with God in our sessions, and some ways of praying are more effective at that than others…

If you’re like me, you have a dream and desire for spiritual work that both excites and intimidates you. As you look ahead to this year, I hope my thoughts here can help you understand better how to turn those dreams and desires into plans, and then into reality. To start, let’s talk about dreams…

Each spiritual director has a voice that is real and honest. It’s the voice that comes forth when we are with those family members and friends that we feel really comfortable with. I believe that using more of this voice is a real game-changer in spiritual direction work…

Our 4th Way Groups are a powerful experience. They deepen your work with clients, as well as your own spiritual practice. I encourage you to check out our next one…

In this video, I share a reflection on the art of being still, after a recent session with a busy client. What does it mean to be still in our bodies, emotions, and minds? A 4th Way emerges as we practice this art of stillness. I also discuss the importance of this practice for spiritual directors, and how helpful it is in client sessions…